Well, let me provide you with some guidance on that issue by taking you on a quick walk down my own personal path to becoming a possibilist:

First, start with fear.  Be an incurable worry wart.  Feel inadequate.  Wrestle with yourself daily. Marry someone who makes you feel worse.  

Hear one side of your brain believing in the fear, and the other side intellectually knowing that all is well, but need a third side to actually feel it.

Be a control freak.  Assume the mantle of Master of the Universe at age 6, take it off only reluctantly in your 30s, and have to be reminded that you’ve gotten it out of the closet again in your 40s.  

Engage aggressively in finding strategies to combat the fear, worry and negative thinking.  Read many books, listen to many tapes, attend many seminars, join support groups, do therapy.

Separate from your husband, become a single parent, and have a head on collision with an 18-wheeler in the space of two weeks.  

Get a glimmer.  Grow it for 15 years.

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Okay.  So maybe you don’t want to go that route.  What’s, as my mother says, Plan B?

I’ll tell you right now that you won’t like Plan B.  For many reasons.  But I think mostly because there isn’t a secret handshake.  And of course, there’s the whole personal responsibility thing.

But here it is, the super secret shortcut to truly becoming a possibilist (drumroll): choose to.  

That’s it.  But permanently, eradicating all doubt forever.  

(Nah.  That’s a lie.  You’ll forget periodically, and have to remount your steed.)

And in each moment.  

(Also untrue.  But the more often you choose to believe, the more powerful a possibilist you will become.)

And read my book, coming out from New World Library in the spring of 2010, in which you will discover all the amazing things about you and the universe that are constantly conspiring to turn possibility into reality, and how you can tap into that process.  

(That’s a must. Haha!)

Choose to be a possiblist today. Then BE a possibilist.  Start right now, this minute.  Embrace the great unseen magic and power of the possibility universe and make it yours.   Dream a big dream. Believe in it. And don’t look back.

Yes.  Innate.  These skills reside inside you, whether you’re currently exercising them or not.  As I often say at my speaking engagements, human beings are the best designed Possibility Amplifiers in the universe.  We’re so good at it, in fact, that we can even turn the impossible into reality, and if you pause a moment, I’m sure you can think of some things that humans used to think were impossible, but that are now part of our everyday lives.

So, let’s tighten up that definition of a possibilist: A possibilist believes that all possibilities are personally available, and once a specific possibility is chosen, the possibilist can amplify it into reality.

My editor always had trouble with the phrase “amplify into reality.” She said “we don’t amplify into.” And I would agree that historically we have not.  But today we are.  Today, we need a new turn of phrase that can capture our ability to take the tiniest thought or idea and make it a big, juicy, exciting reality.  We didn’t use to say, “Earth’s orbit.”  We thought the universe spun around the Earth.  We didn’t used to say, “around the world.” We used to think the world was flat.  We didn’t used to say, “remission.” Cancer killed us nearly every time.  It’s time for a new vocabulary.

*I don’t really like to use the word “manifest,” because it’s been so overused.  I like “amplify” because it’s a word that quantum physicists use to describe the process of quantum possibility becoming reality.  If you have a better turn of phrase than “amplify into reality,” I would love to hear it.  And so would my publisher.  Just kidding!  They don’t get to see the manuscript ’til next month!

Meanwhile, tune in next week for my post on how to become a possibilist.  I’ll give you all my personal and counterintuitive secrets.  

Wishing you every possibility! –K.